Why Leaders Fail & How to overcome failure.

Donald Trump, paragon of the real estate world, files for bankruptcy. Richard Nixon, 37th U.S. President, resigns the presidency over the Watergate scandal. Jennifer Capriati, rising tennis star, enters a rehabilitation center for drug addicts. Jim Bakker, renowned televangelist, is convicted of fraud.

In the recent past, we’ve witnessed the public downfall of leaders from almost every area of endeavor — business, politics, religion, and sports. One day they’re on top of the heap, the next, the heap’s on top of them.

Of course, we think that such catastrophic failure could never happen to us. We’ve worked hard to achieve our well-deserved positions of leadership — and we won’t give them up for anything! The bad news is: the distance between beloved leader and despised failure is shorter than we think.

Why Leaders fail?

1: A Shift in Focus

This shift can occur in several ways. Often, leaders simply lose sight of what’s important. The laser-like focus that catapulted them to the top disappears, and they become distracted by the trappings of leadership, such as wealth and notoriety, parties and pleassure.

Leaders are usually distinguished by their ability to “think big.” But when their focus shifts, they suddenly start thinking small. They micro manage, they get caught up in details better left to others, they become consumed with the trivial and unimportant. And to make matters worse, this tendency can be exacerbated by an inclination toward perfectionism.

A more subtle leadership derailer is an obsession with “doing” rather than “becoming.” The good work of leadership is usually a result of who the leader is. What the leader does then flows naturally from inner vision and character. It is possible for a leader to become too action oriented and, in the process, lose touch with the more important development of self.

What is your primary focus right now? If you can’t write it on the back of a napkin, then it’s a sure bet that your leadership is suffering from a lack of clarity. Take the time necessary to get your focus back on what’s important.

Further, would you describe your thinking as expansive or contractive? Of course, you always should be willing to do whatever it takes to get the job done, but try never to take on what others can do as well as you. In short, make sure that your focus is on leading rather than doing.

Poor Communication

A lack of focus and its resulting disorientation typically lead to poor communication. Followers can’t possibly understand a leader’s intent when the leader him- or herself isn’t sure what it is! And when leaders are unclear about their own purpose, they often hide their confusion and uncertainty in ambiguous communication.

Sometimes, leaders fall into the clairvoyance trap. In other words, they begin to believe that truly committed followers automatically sense their goals and know what they want without being told. Misunderstanding is seen by such managers as a lack of effort (or commitment) on the listener’s part, rather than their own communication negligence.

“Say what you mean, and mean what you say” is timeless advice, but it must be preceded by knowing what you mean! An underlying clarity of purpose is the starting point for all effective communication. It’s only when you’re absolutely clear about what you want to convey that the hard work of communicating pays dividends.

Risk Aversion

Leaders at risk often begin to be driven by a fear of failure rather than the desire to succeed. Past successes create pressure for leaders: “Will I be able to sustain outstanding performance?” “What will I do for an encore?” In fact, the longer a leader is successful, the higher his or her perceived cost of failure.

When driven by the fear of failure, leaders are unable to take reasonable risks. They want to do only the tried and proven; attempts at innovation — typically a key to their initial success — diminish and eventually disappear.

Which is more important to you: the attempt or the outcome? Are you still taking reasonable risks? Prudent leadership never takes reckless chances that risk the destruction of what has been achieved, but neither is it paralyzed by fear. Often the dance of leadership is two steps forward, one step back.

Ethics Slip

A leader’s credibility is the result of two aspects: what he or she does (competency) and who he or she is (character). A discrepancy between these two aspects creates an integrity problem.

The highest principle of leadership is integrity. When integrity ceases to be a leader’s top priority, when a compromise of ethics is rationalized away as necessary for the “greater good,” when achieving results becomes more important than the means to their achievement — that is the moment when a leader steps onto the slippery slop of failure.

Often such leaders see their followers as pawns, a mere means to an end, thus confusing manipulation with leadership. These leaders lose empathy. They cease to be people “perceivers” and become people “pleasers,” using popularity to ease the guilt of lapsed integrity.

It is imperative to your leadership that you constantly subject your life and work to the highest scrutiny. Are there areas of conflict between what you believe and how you behave? Has compromise crept into your operational tool kit? One way to find out is to ask the people you depend on if they ever feel used or taken for granted.

Poor Self Management

Tragically, if a leader doesn’t take care of him- or herself, no one else will. Unless a leader is blessed to be surrounded by more-sensitive-than-normal followers, nobody will pick up on the signs of fatigue and stress. Leaders are often perceived to be superhuman, running on unlimited energy.

While leadership is invigorating, it is also tiring. Leaders who fail to take care of their physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual needs are headed for disaster. Think of having a gauge for each of these four areas of your life — and check them often! When a gauge reaches the “empty” point, make time for refreshment and replenishment. Clear your schedule and take care of yourself — it’s absolutely vital to your leadership that you continue to grow and develop, a task that can be accomplished only when your tanks are full.

Lost Love

The last warning sign of impending disaster that leaders need to heed is a move away from their first love and dream. Paradoxically, the hard work of leadership should be fulfilling and even fun. But when leaders lose sight of the dream that compelled them to accept the responsibility of leadership, they can find themselves working for causes that mean little to them. They must stick to what they love, what motivated them at the first, to maintain the fulfillment of leadership.

To make sure that you stay on the track of following your first love, frequently ask yourself these three questions: Why did I initially assume leadership? Have those reasons changed? Do I still want to lead?

Heed the Signs

The warning signs in life — from stop lights to prescription labels — are there for our good. They protect us from disaster, and we would be foolish to ignore them. As you consider the six warning signs of leadership failure, don’t be afraid to take an honest look at yourself. If any of the warnings ring true, take action today! The good news is: by paying attention to these signs and heeding their warnings, you can avoid disaster and sustain the kind of leadership that is healthy and fulfilling both for yourself and your followers.

At this prescise moment, I am enjoying a glass of red wine, thinking about my wife my kids and my family and updating my blog. Today I have also been thinking about the mistakes I have made. If you are a leader, good luck the pitfalls are numerous. And to my wife, that has managed to stay married to me for all these years. I love you; you are strong, smart and amazing. I am still looking to give you the paradise I promissed.

Sometimes leaders are sunk. Going down. Headed for disaster. Immediate thoughts when an event, a phone call, the beach the party and then all, goes completely wrong. We’ve all been there. The feeling of dread, mixed with embarrassment and worry. Even worse if people were counting on you and you are going to have to let them down. But who says that failure is the only option when problems arise?

“The conquering of adversity produces strength of character, forges self-confidence, engenders self-respect, and assures success in righteous endeavor.” – Richard G. Scott

Yes, it can be difficult to pull yourself up and try to figure out a solution when everything looks bleak, but there are some steps that you can take to lead to towards *hopefully* a new solution.

Look at it from a different angle. I am sure many of you glanced at this picture and saw a sinking ship. Reality? The boat isn’t actually sinking, it is the angle of the shot. Captured at just the right moment, it just looks like the back end is under. It’s not really a disaster, it just looks like one. Next time you feel like something is crashing down around you, see what other angles you can look from – you may be surprised what you find.

If all else fails, be honest. If at the end of the day, nothing can save the event, the date, the whatever…just be honest. Don’t sit an complain about how everything fell apart, but do tell people what happened. People appreciate honesty, and understand that we are all human.

Don't panic. Assess, review, regroup, be grateful. In any situation there are worse scenarios...as a rule. Count your blessings. Keep the faith...faith suggest rhyme and reason...which in turn suggests that all things can have a positive aspect. Try to see the silver lining. Also try to understand what you could have done better, find the cause...this is not about blame it is about cause. Fix the cause and you fix the affect.

Learn how to: Instead of making a mountain out of a molehill, learn how to make molehills out of mountains. It is not the end of the world. It's not a killer tsunami. Forget the small stuff: its all small stuff. Breathe. Regroup. Get council. Attack anew. And remember this set back or "failure" will help you and others in the future. Ten years later you may be giving council to someone who has failed...you will know what to say because you too have gone through the fire. Fire purifies...it is all good. but at the same time, you can never downgrade. it’s all up from there and the most important we are still alive.